In this video, the viewers will learn how to accept themselves for who they are.
- One of the great things about becoming more self-aware is that you can gain accepting yourself for who your are. Let me tell ya about a friend of mine and a wonderful story of self-acceptance. His name is Ken Frazier. He's CEO of the Merck Corporation, the world's greatest scientific pharmaceutical company. Ken's grandfather was a slave, which means he was born before 1863. And Ken has really good in his skin. He really accepts his station in life. His father never got beyond the level of janitor.
He grew up in inner-city Philadelphia in a really tough area. And Ken's father always used to say, "Kenny, what are you doing to carry on the narrative "from your grandfather?" And a key part of that for Ken is accepting himself for who he is. He's never ashamed of the fact that his skin is black or he grew up poor. He's very proud of what he was able to accomplish and the fact he stayed true to his values and his beliefs in life. I once asked Ken, Ken have you ever been discriminated against? And he just laughed.
He said, "Of course, "I'm discriminated against all the time." He said, "But you know what? "If I react to that and get angry, "then I've given you the power." He said, "I'm not gonna do that "because your discriminating against me is your problem. "It's not my problem. "So, I'm just gonna ignore that and keep moving forward "and be who I am." That is self-acceptance. And knowing who you are and accepting yourself as you are, and knowing that beyond the cover of the book, the skin color, or the ethnic background, or any of those things aren't what it's about.
It's about who you are, the inside person, and being real, and knowing that I'm okay as a person because I can accept myself with all my flaws and my weaknesses, as well as the strengths I can bring to the world. It's one of the hardest things we have to do is to accept ourselves for who we are. Oh, I don't like my flaws. I don't like the fact that I'm not cool. Or I'm too impatient. Or I'm too direct and that offends people. You know, we all have flaws. Can you accept your weaknesses, and then build on your strengths? But you have to accept your weaknesses.
Where does that come from, that acceptance? Well, first of all, you have to understand 'em. You have to be aware of what they are. And then, as you share that with other people, and you share your vulnerabilities, and your fears, or your concerns, and you find that people love you just as much for your weaknesses as your strengths. You know, we don't look to people and admire them just because of their title, or the outward signs, or because of their IQ. It's speaks to who, what are their hearts. Do they care about us? Are they real people? Are they authentic? Are they good in their skin? And so, that's the acceptance of ourselves.
And part of that is having compassion for yourself. Can I have compassion for that boy that got run over in ninth grade football, or who got rejected by the girls in 10th grade to go to the prom because he wasn't cool enough? If I can accept myself that way, I don't have to try to be cool now. I don't have to try to impress people with what title I held or any of those things. I can just be real 'cause I know people like me more for that. They don't love me for the title, or the fact I used to be CEO of a big company. And so, what about you? Where do you stand on the self-acceptance curve? Do you have compassion for yourself and your own weaknesses? Do you accept your strengths and weaknesses? And can you build on your strengths and minimize those weaknesses, and then accept yourself for who you are? You know, the odd thing about this is when you can accept yourself, you find your weaknesses dissipate.
They go away. They don't get accentuated. And you don't get angry. You don't get pulled out. You don't get out of character nearly as often. So, in that self-acceptance, then you're ready for what we call self-actualization. And self-actualization is really being, living the fullness of life and being all that you could be, and achieving your greatest goals. And your greatest dreams can come true because you've accepted who you are. You may not gonna be the star athlete, the CEO, but you can be real.
And when you engage other people in that discussion, talk to a close friend about this, you're gonna find they're not nearly as concerned about the things that you're struggling with in accepting yourself. They're gonna love you for just who you are.
- Understanding your desires and fears
- Knowing and owning your life story
- Seeking feedback
- Accepting yourself