Join Marlene Chism for an in-depth discussion in this video What you should know before watching, part of Anger Management.
- Before we begin talking about how to manage anger, I'd like to lay a foundation by sharing some things you need to know upfront. First, I'm making the assumption that you are here by choice. I'm assuming that you're seeking change. Maybe you want to become more aware of what your triggers are, or perhaps you know your triggers but you want techniques to help you direct your anger. If so, you're in the right place. But maybe you really didn't want to be here. Maybe your boss suggested this course to you.
If that's the case, I'm assuming you're willing to look at your anger and reflect on ways to represent yourself differently. I'm glad you're here. Second, I believe that if you're successfully going to manage your anger, you need to successfully manage your energy renewal. Have you noticed that when you're hungry or when you're emotionally drained, you're more likely to lose your temper? Or when your relationships aren't supportive, you feel edgy and irritable? I know that if I'm hungry and I haven't slept well, I'm going to be challenged to stay in control when I'm trying to be a support to my aging mother who seems to need a lot of my energy these days.
So during this course, stay aware of your energy needs and make sure that your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual energy is being renewed. Remember, we need food and sleep for our physical renewal. We need both stimulation and relaxation for mental renewal. We need supportive relationships for emotional renewal. We need meaning and purpose for our spiritual renewal. No technique will work long term if your energy reserves are depleted.
You will hear me say over and over that anger is a sign that something needs to change. Make sure you're getting good food, good rest, and good relationships, and this will help you immensely. Third, you may need more than just this course. Suppose you keep trying but nothing works for you. You're still just as angry as ever and you lose control without knowing why. Some anger issues are deeply rooted in the subconscious.
In this case, you may need to see a therapist to facilitate the change process. With a firm commitment and the right amount of support, you can come back to these videos and make the changes you desire. Anger is part of the human experience, but anger should not be an obstacle to creating a good life, good relationships, or advancing in your career.
- Acknowledging an anger problem
- Using calming techniques
- Avoiding other people's issues
- Understanding your triggers and old behaviors
- Mastering your narrative and taking control
- Setting appropriate boundaries
- Making anger work for you