From the course: Working with Difficult People (2017)

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Selfish people

Selfish people

From the course: Working with Difficult People (2017)

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Selfish people

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- We're all selfish to a degree. We're designed to survive and maximize our position in life. But also because we're social animals we're programmed to sacrifice our own interests a little bit in order to help the pack, because helping the pack helps us too. But some people seem to have a lot of the first part and pretty much none of the second part. They freeload on the help they get from the pack. Never putting anything back in in return. And this is really annoying. But, of course, getting annoyed just makes us the loser. The answer is to either let them continue but somehow not be annoyed by them, or to do something about the person's behavior. Let's have a closer look at these options. If you go for the living with it option, then your objective is to get the one thing from them rather than to change them. So if, for example, someone isn't doing their share of the work. The first step is to let them know that you've noticed. Ideally with a mixture of facts and feelings. So you…

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