Discover the importance of labeling emotions and how to stay away from blaming. Venting temporarily feels good, but it can turn into a negative habit. Reduce drama in your life by labeling the emotions you feel.
- Thank goodness for caller ID.…I used to have a friend, and when I saw her name…on caller ID I avoided answering.…Whenever we talked on the phone…she talked about her problems…and the more she told the story the more the madder she got…and the more distressed I became.…One day I finally told her, I can't stand it any longer,…and she said, "I just want to vent,…"it makes me feel better."…What she didn't know is that her venting…was probably hard-wiring her brain…for more angry experiences…and damaging her personal relationships.…
Here are three things I'd like to share,…why venting may be causing more drama,…how labeling can reduce drama…and how blame gets in the way.…Venting feels good in the moment,…however, if you vent more than a few minutes…venting often leads to anger escalation.…Haven't you noticed when you tell a story…about what someone did the story eventually…takes on a life of its own?…Anger escalates as you seek social proof…about how right you are and how wrong you've been done.…
At first it feels good to be validated…
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- Acknowledging an anger problem
- Using calming techniques
- Avoiding other people's issues
- Understanding your triggers and old behaviors
- Mastering your narrative and taking control
- Setting appropriate boundaries
- Making anger work for you