From the course: Working with Difficult People (2017)

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Games players: What can be done

Games players: What can be done

From the course: Working with Difficult People (2017)

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Games players: What can be done

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- So, we've seen that games players are taking positions on the Drama Triangle, which has Persecutor, Victim and Rescuer. And, as they move around the triangle, they push you into other corners of the triangle, sometimes, with a twist at the end that leaves them feeling good and you as the victim. Even behaviors like bearing grudges and sulking are small versions of games. Along with statements like, I told you so, it's for your own good, I was only joking, now look what you've made me do, is this the thanks I get, and the things I do for you. And even some negative emotions like jealousy and revenge are on there when you think about them. So, what can we do about these games? Well, there are three ways to live with them, and two ways to change them. First, is to withdrawal; just avoid the person, or walk away when the games start. If they start to complain about their boss, or criticize colleagues behind their back, just don't get involved. The second option is to live with it…

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