Tactics to deal with games players include living with it comfortably; being assertive; and exposing the game. If they deny playing games, you can offer to point it out next time they do it.
- So, we've seen that games players…are taking positions on the Drama Triangle,…which has Persecutor, Victim and Rescuer.…And, as they move around the triangle,…they push you into other corners of the triangle,…sometimes, with a twist at the end…that leaves them feeling good and you as the victim.…Even behaviors like bearing grudges and sulking…are small versions of games.…Along with statements like, I told you so,…it's for your own good, I was only joking,…now look what you've made me do,…is this the thanks I get, and…the things I do for you.…
And even some negative emotions…like jealousy and revenge are on there…when you think about them.…So, what can we do about these games?…Well, there are three ways to live with them,…and two ways to change them.…First, is to withdrawal;…just avoid the person,…or walk away when the games start.…If they start to complain about their boss,…or criticize colleagues behind their back,…just don't get involved.…The second option is to live with it comfortably.…
And this means, that you don't try to change the person,…
In this course, Chris Croft shares methods for recognizing the characteristics of some of the most common types of difficult people, and gives you strategies for dealing with these individuals more effectively. Chris provides practical techniques for dealing with a variety of different behaviors, including negativity, aggression, childishness, and selfishness. Plus, he explains how to overcome your own negative thinking, and get the best from a difficult boss.
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- Identifying and understanding difficult people
- Handling aggressive and passive-aggressive people
- Working with negative people
- Working with procrastinators and people with bad habits
- Conquering your own negative thinking
- When the difficult person is your boss
- Dealing with micromanagers