Learn how to acquire one of the greatest keys to professional and personal success—a mentor. It starts with knowing yourself and envisioning what you have to offer before beginning the mentoring relationship.
- I'm very excited to share with you how to connect with a mentor. Why? Because people with mentors reap important career benefits, like pay, promotions, and greater overall career satisfaction. However, I am convinced that knowing how to connect with a mentor can be a life hack for personal success as well. Life continues to hand us new challenges that require us to shift identities and learn new skills.
If you can assemble a new team of mentors when you have to learn something new, you can overcome challenges more easily. For example, a few years ago I faced a critical and unexpected illness. I am absolutely certain that my ability to assemble a team of mentors was instrumental in me being able to quickly accept my new identity as a patient/warrior. My mentors gave me the support and skills I needed to navigate back to health.
If mentoring is so great, how do you get one? Even if you already have a mentor, it is best if you have a network of different types of mentors. In this video, I will take you through four steps to connect with a mentor. First, know and believe in yourself. Before you connect with a mentor, you must know who you are and what you want from a mentor. You also need to know what you offer to a mentor, and believe that you are worthy of having a mentor.
I've provided an Exercise File to help you get clear on what you offer to a mentor. There are 28 different types of benefits that mentors gain from the relationship. Here is a short highlight of items from that list. Expanded network for mentor, appreciation, enthusiasm, friendship, exposure to new ideas. Circle the top three items you believe that you can offer to a mentor.
Believe that you have much to offer, even if it is just your sincere appreciation. Second, reflect on who to reach out to. Think about who you admire that you would like to connect with, or recall to mind your goals and what you want. Don't censor yourself as you reflect. It's true, you may not be able to get the top person at a company right away. However, maybe you can have one meeting with them and they can provide you with an introduction to someone who can become your mentor.
Third, research potential mentors. This is important, because when you contact your potential mentor, you want to show you've done your homework. So don't ask obvious questions like, where did you go to school? Or what is your job title? Instead, go deeper more quickly. Demonstrate your interests by saying something like, "I noticed you did an internship in Malaysia. "What was most challenging about working abroad?" Fourth, connect courageously with mentors.
A courage ritual is anything you do that pumps up your confidence before you do something challenging, like connecting with a mentor. It can be a physical gesture, like power poses, a song, a mantra, a prayer, poetry, or quotes. For example, I had a student who suffered a serious brain injury the summer before college. She recovered and after intensive therapy made it to college a year later than planned.
This is her courage ritual. She looks in the mirror and says, "You are intelligent, driven, beautiful, kind, prepared. "You are destined for success, "no matter what they think of you." So what is your courage ritual? For more information on developing courage rituals, you can visit ellenensher.com. I have placed a few blog posts in the Exercise Files that explain how to do these. Life will always keep handing us growth opportunities.
Assembling a team of mentors can help you navigate through these with greater ease, grace, and success.