Join Tatiana Kolovou for an in-depth discussion in this video Connect with an advisory board, part of Building Resilience.
- We all have people we debrief and confide in, be they family, friends or colleagues. Just like athletes are surrounded by professionals who work with them to achieve excellence, you too should seek out advisers who can help you debrief and grow from the experience of adverse events. I don't officially invite people to my group I call my advisory board, but I freely ask them to give me feedback on how I have handled a situation. The one characteristic that all my advisory board members have in common is that they are action-oriented.
What I mean by that is that they don't spend time looking for the blame or commiserating with me. They're focused on helping me increase my overall resilience. In situations that are likely to re-occur and where I have some potential influence in, they ask me questions, such as, "What aspects of the situation could you potentially improve on in the future?" "What can you do to be sure that this doesn't happen again?" "Is there anything positive that came out of the situation?" "Can you have any positive influence on what happens next?" Your advisory board should be individuals who can coach you to work through your challenging event and help you process it unemotionally.
They're people you trust to provide honest feedback, perhaps after they give you a pep talk or lend you a sympathetic ear. Most importantly, they guide you with their actionable feedback and questions I listed earlier. It may take a team to help you raise your resilience threshold. If you don't have one yet, start recruiting.