Learn how to stop taking on other people’s issues by setting emotional boundaries. Marlene Chism explores why we take on other people's issues and provides feedback for breaking those patterns.
- Imagine you're going about your business,…you're in a pretty good mood,…then that one special person calls or stops by…and they start dumping their problems on you.…You listen, you give advice, you try to empathize.…Nothing changes except for you and your mood.…You feel negative and angry, you blow up,…you're sick and tired of their problems.…Man, I've felt this way about a few people in my life.…If you've ever felt the same, let's explore…why taking on other people's issues can make you angry…and let's talk about some techniques…for breaking the pattern.…
When you care more about someone else's issues than they do,…you unconsciously become an enabler.…Your constant intervention relieves them…of the responsibility of fixing their own problems.…As a result, they keep coming back for more.…They waste your time, they drain your energy,…and, eventually, let's face it, you feel used.…Anger sets in.…For a while, you try to avoid contact,…but, eventually, they reel you back in…and the cycle continues.…It's time to break the pattern…
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- Identify the most common myths about anger.
- Explore the differences between suppressing anger and using calming techniques to gain control.
- Recall what happens when you get triggered and use a formula to understand your triggers.
- Recognize unwanted behaviors and explore how to replace with desired behaviors.
- Identify three components of responsible language as a tool for managing anger.
- Explore a three step process to build the space needed to respond to anger appropriately instead of reacting.