Illustrate the difference in talking about what you don't want (complaining) or asking succinctly for what you do want. When you learn to ask for what you want, you avoid making up stories that you can't get what you want. You become empowered to meet you
- You can create a habit out of anything, even complaining.…The more you complain, the more neuroconnections…you grow in your brain for the purpose of complaining.…The habit of complaining has other serious consequences.…Complaining magnifies the issue.…The more you rage on about the problem,…the more your anger escalates.…It's also contagious.…You can trigger other peoples' anger…by your constant state of negativity.…And it can be isolating.…
People view you as negative,…therefore they try to avoid you.…So yes, complaining is a bad habit,…but let's explore deeper why people complain,…and how you can communicate in a way…that helps you get your needs met.…Besides habit, there are really only…two reasons people complain.…They don't know what they want,…or they do know what they want but they don't…know how to get it.…Either way, when you don't believe you can…meet your own needs, you complain,…and when you keep complaining,…you increase your frustration.…
You get into what I call verbal ping pong…with your employees, your colleagues,…
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- Acknowledging an anger problem
- Using calming techniques
- Avoiding other people's issues
- Understanding your triggers and old behaviors
- Mastering your narrative and taking control
- Setting appropriate boundaries
- Making anger work for you