Skill Level Intermediate
(upbeat music) - [Instructor] If you're a millennial, you are all too familiar with what you just saw. Heck, you might even know it even if you're not a millennial. The dating world has become a wild jungle. The times of making eye contact with someone and having your heart flutter seem like they live in the past. According to a 2017 study, 39% of heterosexual couples met online that year. And those are just the ones that wanted to admit it. Analogously, 60% of the same-sex couples met online that same year. Since then, there's been an explosion of users for dating apps, and the choices are plentiful. Along with more security and awareness, people tend to feel a bit safer using these dating apps, or at least safer than they used to. But that's not really what this episode's even about. I just wanted to provide some context. This episode is about choices and what these choices do for our psychology and our sociological behaviors. I've already talked a ton in previous episodes about how people are attached to their phones, and for single people, dating apps are definitely one of the main attractions. Because, let's face it, most people want to find that special someone. However, sometimes this search results in demoralizing consequences. For example, a study cited in Psychology Today found a low rate of matching particularly for men. The study also found that around 50% of matches do not message back, and hence dating app users are constantly being disliked or ignored. Even when I talk among my friends, there are many conversations about how they get ghosted by that person or this person, and anyone can understand how that's psychologically demoralizing to feel unwanted, unloved, and just not good enough for anyone. So as you can see, there are a lot of downsides but there is one major upside that may be worth all that pain. And that's finding someone with whom you can spend the rest of your life, and that's the entire appeal of the scenario anyway, right? And maybe people's motivations are different. Some people are looking for love, others for marriage, and even others might be looking for casual dating. And here's the real important part. The level of motivation and commitment helps you decide whether you stick it out with someone, let's call that exploiting the situation, or you explore to see who else is out there. But when do you stop? How do you know when you've met the one? Well, we'll get to that soon enough.