This video lays out a system for organizing and prioritizing each partner's "asks" based on the importance of its underlying personal value. It also covers tips for fostering cooperation and minimizing competition for resources.
- It's time to negotiate.…But before you square off like prize fighters…in your opposing corners, let me assure you…there will be no ding, ding, ding heard here.…This negotiation is a process where…the only acceptable outcome is win-win.…Anything else violates our central agreements…of inclusion, equality and sustainability.…In a scenario where one partner dominates the other,…maybe because they're a stronger negotiator…or because they exert more emotional pressure to control,…the other partner will find ways to undermine…or get around the agreement.…
We don't want that.…What we want is a process in which both people…participate fully, and an outcome where…both get what is critically essential to them.…If you've done the exercises in the previous videos,…you've already laid some very important groundwork.…You know what is valuable to you.…You've identified where you feel that's missing…and you've clearly articulated…what it is you want to change.…You know how to have a conversation…where each partner gets the space to speak…
In this course, financial therapist Amanda Clayman shows how to tackle the financial difficulties that often sour partnerships by walking through how to create and follow a family cash flow plan. Using her five pillars of financial harmony as a guide, Amanda explains how to construct a plan that engages all family members in its implementation. Looking at money management as a system designed to meet your specific needs, she highlights common financial conflicts and shows how to create a healthy, sustainable plan. She explains how to establish ground rules for communicating effectively, prioritize each partner's "asks," assign money management roles suited to each partner's strengths, and bring it all together into a working plan.
- Why couples fight about money
- Exploring values
- Communicating effectively
- Being clear and concrete
- Negotiating successfully
- Assigning roles suited to each partner's strength
- Setting up a routine
- Creating your family cash flow plan
- Dealing with dilemmas
- Making changes
- Engaging children in your family's cash flow management process