This video translates abstract values into concrete and specific "asks" that partners can integrate into the planning process.
- Why is it so hard to ask our partner for what we need?…I'm not talking about, can you please not…leave your wet towel on the floor?…Many of us ask for that one just about everyday.…No, I'm talking about those things that we truly need…in order to feel safe, happy, and fulfilled.…With money we have a quantifiable tool that allows us…to translate many of those core needs into specific requests…and that can be scary.…It can feel safer to stay within the realms of facts…and arguments rather than ask for what we need and risk…our partner not agreeing to give it to us.…
Let's discuss how to articulate our own financial needs…and move from our more abstract financial values…into something clear and concrete that we can ask for.…Let's go back to our financial values exercise.…Look at the two questions that ask,…how are your values reflected in the way…your family currently earns, spends, and manages money?…And how are your values not reflected in the way…your family currently earns, spends, and manages money?…Your answer to the first question…
In this course, financial therapist Amanda Clayman shows how to tackle the financial difficulties that often sour partnerships by walking through how to create and follow a family cash flow plan. Using her five pillars of financial harmony as a guide, Amanda explains how to construct a plan that engages all family members in its implementation. Looking at money management as a system designed to meet your specific needs, she highlights common financial conflicts and shows how to create a healthy, sustainable plan. She explains how to establish ground rules for communicating effectively, prioritize each partner's "asks," assign money management roles suited to each partner's strengths, and bring it all together into a working plan.
- Why couples fight about money
- Exploring values
- Communicating effectively
- Being clear and concrete
- Negotiating successfully
- Assigning roles suited to each partner's strength
- Setting up a routine
- Creating your family cash flow plan
- Dealing with dilemmas
- Making changes
- Engaging children in your family's cash flow management process