Sometimes, being smart is a problem. Dr. Todd helps you learn to think consciously about your intelligence and identify ways you may be isolating yourself or alienating others.
(upbeat rock music) - Hey, my name's Todd, and I'm pretty smart. I mean, sometimes so smart it gets me in trouble. Yeah, did you know that? Sometimes being really bright can get you in a lot of trouble. So, listen up, smarties. Being smart is wonderful. It means better grades, better jobs, faster promotions. That's great, but very often it means that you're limiting yourself without even knowing it.
You can annoy people, or put them off just a little, without ever meaning to do that. Have you ever wondered why socializing sometimes feels a little difficult? Well, it's because being smart can cause you some problems. For example, sometimes you speak up too often. You've all seen it. Hey, I know the answer, right here (laughs). When you do that, people just think you're a know-it-all. You often have trouble relating to people effectively. You interrupt them too often. You don't show enough empathy when you should, and that rubs people the wrong way.
You often think instead of feel, which really makes you look strange in front of other people when they are experiencing natural emotions. Sometimes, you hurt on the inside, because you believe it's not appropriate for you to discuss insecurities and fears. So, what to do about this, smarties? Well, you can't change your IQ. You can't change your personality for the most part. But you can change some of your behaviors. You need to be helpful, not always a know-it-all, just quietly trying to be supportive.
Try listening a whole lot more than speaking. Only then do you start to truly hear what people need. I want you to think about actively seeking humility. You've got to remember that you don't know it all and let others make a contribution. Actively think about how others are feeling, and then try to show some respect for those feelings. You should be happy that you're so smart. I love it, but if you want to leverage being smart, remember, it's about being a great colleague.
It's about being an even better person. Because in the end, it's not about you. It's about them.