Key principles for managing up

- One of the key concepts to managing up, is to learn … how to operate from our sphere of control. … The things that we have direct power over. … So instead of pointing fingers at what other people … should do or what other people need … to do, let's focus directly on what we can do. … A couple of key concepts will really help you … be really great at managing up. … Number one, as much as we wish it were true we … can not control other people. … We only have power over how we behave. … Our actions, our reactions, our interactions. … Two, we kind of resist changing. … And secretly I believe that people wish that others … would adapt to them. … So we have to understand that our power … in relationships comes from our ability to adapt. … How much are we willing to adapt to other people … so we bring them towards us. … Adapting is simple. … It's about acceptance and choice. … Accepting who somebody is and how they prefer to operate … and then choosing whether or not we are willing … to adapt our behavior to better align with them. …