How to return to caring

- [Man] Could you share a little bit when you're in the midst of things you know I think that many of us want to aspire to care about people regularly and then we get caught up in our own stuff and we get defensive and such. Did you have any tactical tips for when you're in the moment in the heat of it, what are some great ways that you can kind of quickly bring yourself back to a caring position? - [Woman] Oh my gosh you're asking the wrong person I am so bad. (laughs) But there's a chapter about this too. It was one of the most disappointing things, one of the hardest things but it turned out to be wonderful about learning all this stuff and the shift and seeing people as people was it turns out I'm still just kind of me and I'm still just kind of a jerk and I can still fight and I can still see people as objects and I didn't just magically turn into a fairy princess you know who scatters flowers around. It was very…