Make yourself an object of interest—it’s far less stressful when people come to you. Use a tool like writing or social media, where you can take your time and get it exactly how you want it, to share your ideas and "put out a beacon" so that other like-minded clients and colleagues can find you. LinkedIn will be especially helpful in connecting with your network, recruiters, etc.
- I do a lot of public speaking,…about 50 keynote talks per year,…so it's often surprising to people…when I tell them I'm an introvert.…"That can't be," they say,…"you're up on stage!"…But here's the secret, which is a bit counterintuitive.…It's a lot more stressful for me to plunge…into a crowd of people I don't know at a party afterwards…and have to come up with something to say to strangers…than it is to give a talk in front of a room.…Up on stage it's calm, quiet,…and I can control the situation,…unlike a loud and unruly networking event.…
Plus, after the talk, people come up to me to chat,…and they have plenty of things to talk to me about.…There's no fishing for small talk,…or wondering where to take the conversation,…it's easier from the start.…So if you like public speaking,…that's ironically a great way as an introvert…to connect with others.…But even if you don't, you can use…the same principle to your advantage.…Social interactions become far smoother…if you take steps to get noticed by others.…Here are a few ways you can do it.…
- Identify the essential feature of introversion.
- Recognize the primary personal cost to consider when prioritizing network events.
- Recall the key characteristic of a useful commonality.
- Explain how to manage social energy while still fulfilling obligations.
- Summarize how to meaningfully engage other introverts during a conference lasting an extended period of time.