Carson Tate on pushing past the “shoulds”

(engaging music) - So often for many of us, there are these scripts or these tapes that are going through our mind and I call them the shoulds. You should say yes to this, ask to be on this board, you should bake cupcakes from scratch, you should do this. It's all these shoulds. Well, the problem with the shoulds is that they become a runaway train and before you know it, you've said yes and overcommitted to so many things that might or might not be in alignment with your goals and how you want to live and run your life. When you feel those shoulds kicking in, I'm going to suggest that you ask yourself a couple of questions. So the first one is the purpose question, so what is the purpose behind this should, who really is driving it, and what is the should getting at? And then the o stands for the opportunity, 'cause sometimes a should could be shining a light on opportunities, so you could be asked to work in a stretch assignment. This could be a real opportunity for you, so you want…