Join Nir Eyal for an in-depth discussion in this video Call to action, part of Becoming Indistractable.
- Some people, when they make a pact and they fail,…as we all inevitably do, they take it very hard.…They find it very difficult to get back on track.…The solution to this problem is self-compassion.…Studies find that people who are more self-compassionate…are more likely to reach their long-term goals.…Well how do we cultivate self-compassion?…Studies suggest that one technique is to talk to ourselves…the way we might talk to a good friend.…If I told you about the problem that I had…when I became distracted on my phone,…when I really wanted to be with my daughter,…I'm guessing you wouldn't tell me that I'm a bad father…or that there's something wrong with me.…
So why do we talk to ourselves this way?…Why do we beat ourselves up?…Instead, we should cultivate self-compassion…and talk to ourselves the way we would talk…to a good friend, with loving kindness.…Now equally unhelpful would be if you told me,…oh, it's not your fault.…You see, this technology, it's built to be addictive.…It's irresistible, there's nothing you can do.…
- Determine what motivates action in the psychology of akrasia.
- Identify the cause of distraction.
- Explain how you can sacrifice some communication for better concentration.
- Recall a step that reduces distractions triggered by modern devices.
- Name the sphere in which you must begin to center your time.