Join Pat Wadors for an in-depth discussion in this video Striving for DIBs, part of Diversity, Inclusion, and Belonging.
- If someone says, "Pat I'm in a hostile "work environment; there's discrimination." "You know, from the color of my skin, "my gender, whatever that is. What do I do?" And I go, "Have bravery to speak up, "to see if someone's listening. "And if they're not listening, nor do they care, move on." Because who you work with, and who you work for matters, because we spend so much of our time with these individuals, with these humans. And they're not feeding your soul; you give so much, why stay? There's so much work opportunity.
We're not in a shortage of job opportunities. There's jobs posted; millions of jobs posted everywhere around the world. So why limit yourself to choice. Play Goldilocks. And so if you feel trapped, you will behave like you're trapped. If you realize there's choice, you're empowered. And so those individuals that are in the taker organization, or in the less forgiving organization, then play Goldilocks. Interview and talk to other companies. See if there's a culture ad you belong to, and then make a choice, be empowered.
You'll never be a victim. Victims don't survive and thrive. They might survive, but they're not going to thrive. And I want to thrive, I want to smile. And it's not even like-minded. So if you feel like you're trapped, untrap. Actually create a plan. Imagine, visualize the job, the community, the smiles, the environment that you want to work in, right. Do I get to ride my bike to work? Do I get to see people like me there? Do I get to be as creative and funny as I want to be? Telling a joke won't be frowned upon.
Can I wear my hair pink? Like you will have this little, silly checklist of yours, right. But it's so meaningful. It's like I need income, I need safety, I need to be quirky, I need to have friends, and I need to be me. And then you interview, and you explore. You go on an exploration, and you figure out what fits you. And it's like when you find it, you unlock more of you. And that's what you should be striving towards. But if there's a problem where you are today, raise your hand, express it.
You have a right to be treated fairly, and beautifully. I have a motto at work, and at home. You deserve to be treated beautifully. Even if I disagree with your work product, the quality of the work, I think you made a mistake, whatever that is, I still must treat you beautifully because you're a great human being. You deserve my respect, my compassion, my care. I can have difficult conversations with you. But they don't have to be mean, they don't have to be harsh, they don't have to be disrespectful or brushing you off. And that unlocks a lot of great things when you have that mindset.
So don't settle. When you settle as an employee, you lose that mojo that's yours. Find where you flourish. Try to change where you are. If it's a one-off example, if the rest of the company is beautiful, and this one thing isn't, then really fight hard because that's not okay. Really fight hard. Like talk to HR, or talk to your manager, whatever the case may be. But be heard. And if you're not feeling heard, or the overall vibe isn't healthy enough for you, then you've got a choice.
You have a choice which door to walk through everyday. Make it the right one.