Join Arianna Huffington for an in-depth discussion in this video Recognizing and making changes, part of Thriving @ Work: Leveraging the Connection between Well-Being and Productivity.
- Well, you know, on our website you can take a Thrive Pulse survey which will give you a read out as to where your biggest pain point might be. Most people are aware of it though. You know where you're most challenged. And what I tell people is, "When you "understand where your challenge is, "then that's the first place, where "you want to make a micro step, "a micro change." And often, you know, it isn't necessarily that the micro change is that big a deal, it's just that it's outside our comfort zone.
So human beings want to live in their comfort zone because it's comfortable. Change, doing something different is always going to be outside of that. But the reality is, the only way we learn and grow is outside our comfort zone, because that's where the new things occur. So this is a new thing. It would be outside your comfort zone. So don't expect to be comfortable in the process. But the best thing you can do is to start doing that personal self evaluation. If I were asking myself, if I wanted to make one change, most of us want to make 50 but let's just pick one.
What would the highest impact change be? And, for example, if that highest impact change was around connecting with your family, that you feel the greatest pain in your day, because of the lack of connection around that, then I would say to you, "Okay, how "do we do that more effectively?" Earlier I mentioned creating a zone, a time zone where it's just you with family. So maybe you need to communicate to all of your colleagues that from the hours of six and eight, or six and nine, or whatever that is, you will be offline.
And then that's the first step to you being able to connect more with them. That level of communication, everyone knows that's the case. And will there be moments, every once in a while where they need you during that time, maybe. But for the most part you shut that down. You put that on your calendar. You create space in your kids' lives, in your family's life. "This is what we do during this time." And it becomes your routine. That becomes the first step to really creating the connection that you want.
You could do that around any of the areas that we talked about. Even from the standpoint of not having devices in your bedroom. I'm passionate about kids not having devices in your bedrooms, I mentioned. And so part of that is, "What do you "demonstrate to them so that they see "that this is important." At Thrive we have something called a sleep bed. Which is basically just a charger. But it shows your kids, when you go into your bedroom, it's night time, plug your phone in there.
And when they're old enough to have phones or devices, have them plug their phones into this thing. So that, that sits out on the counter and everyone knows, "When we go in "our bedroom, there's no devices in there." Small step, but creates major impact, not only for you but long term for them, critical for them. Exercise, five minutes, I mentioned, try that. Gratitude, gratitude journal, once a night. Five minutes before you go to sleep.
Meditation, do that every day. Five minutes, whenever you feel stressed. Maybe even create a break in your day where between the moment you drive into your driveway and you walk in the house, you take a couple minutes in the car and breathe and meditate and complete your day. Your day's done at work. Your new day's starting with your family. And that break can be powerful for some people. Whatever those things might be, that you see that as your major challenge, we've got a list of all the micro steps and micro changes you can make.
But it's important to pick one, small one, start with it, create consistency. By the way, it's 32 days in a row. So you do that every day for 32 days. If you miss a day, you start over at one. Because the consistency's critical. So whatever it is you choose, choose something, daily, every day, it doesn't necessarily have to be at the same time. But every day do it. You will find, at the end of 32 days you will actually feel, think, and do, differently.
- The importance of well-being
- Bringing your whole self to work
- Knowing your boundaries and limitations
- Investing in your relationships
- Working towards your strengths
- Knowing when to say no
- Holding yourself accountable to change