Join Fred Kofman for an in-depth discussion in this video Moving to response-ability, part of Powerless to Powerful: Taking Control.
- The story of the victim is always justifying.…It's true bad things happen to us all the time.…They happen to us as individuals.…They happen to us as teams.…They happen to us as families.…They happen to us as communities.…And whenever something bad happens,…the first reaction is to look for who to blame…or what to blame, and to feel that it's not our fault,…that we're okay.…As I said, the price of that is that we don't see…the opportunities to respond to the situation.…
We don't see how we were a part of creating the situation,…how we participated in the problem.…But if we don't see ourselves as part of the problem,…we cannot see ourselves as part of the solution.…I didn't break it, I don't have to fix it.…Well, that's a bad way to think.…That's a poor way to think because,…even though you didn't break it,…you may be suffering from it.…So anything that causes suffering,…it's your problem in the sense…that you can take responsibility to do something about it.…
The victim precisely avoids responsibility.…But what the victim doesn't see is that he or she…
- Explore how claiming innocence can take away your power to enact change.
- Recall what "response-ability" means and how it relates to the victim mentality.
- Identify the factors that differentiate a victim from a player.
- Recognize the attributes of a hero.
- Examine methods that can help you empower others.