Join Arianna Huffington for an in-depth discussion in this video Life audit: Identify fears, part of Arianna Huffington's Thrive 04: Facing Challenges with Gratitude and Forgiveness.
- Hello, so I'm here with Christina, my oldest daughter, and in every class we want to remember to take a moment to breathe and spend time on our life audits. Let's talk about our biggest fears that might be holding us back. We want you to list them out. This could be something that worries you in each aspect of your life. Think about it around all the key areas, work, your children, other family members, your relationships, your home, your car, your money, your health.
They don't have to be rational, they're just your fears. Sometimes it's the fears we create in our own heads. My favorite quote is by Montaigne who said, "There were many terrible things in my life "and most of them never happened." When we remember that, it's much easier to deal with our fears. So, think about your priorities list from lesson three. What fears are in the way of you accomplishing what you've decided is a priority? Let's also take a moment to talk about the old fears that you have overcome, because when you do that it makes it easier for you to realize you can overcome your current fears.
So, Christina, is there any fear that's uppermost in your mind right now? - I think the big one is about job stuff and career stuff. I just want to know exactly what I'm passionate about and what I'm good at, and I think I'm scared that I'm not going to be able to figure that out and that I'm going to be an aimless wonder for my whole life. And that fear especially tends to come up when the project that I'm working on now isn't going according to plan.
And so, that's the big one for me, but in terms of fears that I've overcome, I think that one thing that you taught me is that when we're living in fear, we're not living in the present. And that fear is always a projection into the future, or it's looking back into the past. And so, I think that something that I try do is when I'm feeling fearful about something, if you can just focus on being okay in that moment and being taken care of in that moment that you sort of begin to trust the universe, that it will provide in the next moment.
So, that's actually for me, the most important key to overcoming my fears. To come back to my breath, to come back to inhaling and exhaling, and I have this saying as you know, that I love, the blessings already are and focus on the blessings. Because when we're in the moment, then we can't move into projections in the future where the biggest fears are. And we can't move into judgments in the past where I get a lot of the pain and the mental torture is.
And the other thing is to do with my thoughts, to keep remembering that thoughts are not reality, that thoughts are just thoughts. And that's why I'm so happy that you started meditating because part of the process of meditating is returning to the breath and not chasing your thoughts. So, we want you to start to evaluate how you overcame your fears. What steps did you take? How can those same principles be applied against the current fears? In your Life Audit today, write down your fears and try to identify what steps you know to take to get through them.
What are they? Take your time, and I say in every lesson, there is no judgment.
- Facing challenges
- Considering the impact of your attitude
- Practicing forgiveness and gratitude
- Identifying feats