Do I need to reduce the amount of guilt I feel, and if so, what is my plan? The two choices are to be more of an angel and change what you do, or to be more of a devil and change how you think about what you do. Assertiveness expert Chris Croft suggests that you will make a list of situations and allocate one technique or the other.
- I've decided to put a video about guilt…into this happiness course,…because a lot of people seem to suffer from it,…and it really is a large happiness…reducing factor in their lives.…If you suffer at all from guilt, this video is for you.…First, I want to explain that guilt…is a pointless, negative emotion.…It really isn't helpful at all.…Now, none of us is perfect,…and those of us who feel guilt…are subconsciously choosing it,…in the mistaken belief that guilt will help them…to reduce their bad habits,…that it will somehow get us to improve…on our personality failings, but will it?…I would suggest that guilt,…rather than helping us to change,…gives us an excuse to stay the same.…
Suppose you're saying,…I know I ate three doughnuts, but I did feel guilty.…Will the guilt make you change next time?…Bear in mind that it hasn't worked so far.…Here you still are, still eating…those extra doughnuts after years of guilt.…Or does it just give you permission to be like that?…I know it was bad, but I'm not a bad person,…
- Misbeliefs about happiness
- Focusing on good
- Building gratitude
- Eliminating sources of unhappiness
- Reducing stress