Join Fred Kofman for an in-depth discussion in this video Choosing your response, part of Powerless to Powerful: Taking Control.
- The confusion of thinking that being a player…means to be a winner is terrible,…because when people are not winners,…they don't want to be players.…Being a player means that in the moment…when you realize that something is hurting you,…you stop, you think, you take a breath…and say, "How do I want to respond to this?"…And that's my call to action for you.…Next time you're tempted to take the story…of the victim because something goes wrong,…just listen to that story,…listen to that story in your head,…but don't let it come out.…
Stop it.…That's like doing a diet.…Now next time you're tempted to eat the chocolate cake,…just feel the temptation but don't eat it.…Choose something instead.…And instead of the story of the victim,…choose the story of a player.…Find a way that you can say,…"I want to ask myself, I want to inquire within,…"how do I want to respond to this situation…"in a way that maximizes the chances that…"I will get what I want, it's success,…"but also guarantees that when I look back,…"when I look in the mirror,…
- Explore how claiming innocence can take away your power to enact change.
- Recall what "response-ability" means and how it relates to the victim mentality.
- Identify the factors that differentiate a victim from a player.
- Recognize the attributes of a hero.
- Examine methods that can help you empower others.