Join Lisa Gates for an in-depth discussion in this video Jack and Heather resolution, part of Conflict Resolution Foundations.
In this course, we focused our conflict examples on the relationship between Jack, a manager, and Heather, his boss.…It all started with Jack's failure to include Heather in an email loop about a new project he was taking on.…And from there, we discovered lots of trigger points where things derailed.…The conflict between Jack and Heather is mostly relational, and there is a difference in authority…and power that makes it tricky.…So, how do they get from intractability to cooperation?…With patience, a lot of active listening, paraphrasing, and reframing.…
In reality, it's very easy to slip back into blame.…For example, once they begin uncovering the issues, Jack might be tempted to repeat,…"I don't like how you hover over me."…But he will get much further if he focuses on the future, not the past.…He might say instead, "I need your support on new projects, and I need more autonomy, more freedom."…Heather, on the other hand, might feel that Jack's request for more development conversations are excessive.…
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1/3/2013- Understanding how conflicts arise
- Navigating cognitive bias
- Exploring the principles of influence
- Building trust
- Reframing the argument
- Brainstorming solutions
- Working with difficult people
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